Self-Discovery and Personal Growth
How does a person grow? Is it experience related? Is it academically achieved? Or is it something that we can’t quite put our finger on?
We can look at where we are now compared to where we were at a given point in time and conclude that we ‘have grown’. Hindsight helps us to recognise those times where we encountered obstacles or challenges to get to where we are now. But what also comes into play is our value system, that underlying foundation that we probably don’t even give a second thought to but yet, forms the framework of our decision making process.
When asked, most people will say that truth, honesty, and compassion are key values but there are also many others.
Getting to the crux
A tool most, if not all coaches use to help a client discover more about their values is the Wheel of Life. It is also one of the first tools a coach will learn about during their studies, and it ‘gently opens the door’ for very productive coaching consultations. The Wheel of Life maps out eight life areas (although sometimes it can be more) making it easier for the client to focus on each aspect of their life separately. As the coaching progresses, the client becomes aware of the overlaps, and how decisions made in one area can impact another.
The eight areas are:
- Personal Growth
- Friends & Family
The Wheel of Life in effect, sets the agenda for the coaching relationship that will follow. It can happen that a client’s responses can stir up emotions that they’ve ‘packed away’ only to resurface during a consultation. An example of this might be a parent who gave up work to raise children, but now they want to start out on their own path. Those of us who have stayed at home rearing our families or, caring for family members, know that over time a combination of low self-esteem, self-confidence and the endless feeling of being on a hamster wheel, can sometimes lead to turbulent emotions, which in turn can impact on daily life for all concerned.
Small steps forward
This is why we use the Wheel of Life. It is a step by step process, where each step brings the client closer to their end goal. But in doing this, the client also discovers what forms their framework for their decision making process – their value system, as I mentioned earlier.
For a lot of people this is the first step on the path of self-discovery, personal growth and of leaving past dilemma’s behind so that they can focus on their future.